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What are the dating apps for gay men?

Started by Lauren5 Jul 20269 repliesLGBTQ+ Dating

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#1

Genuine question for anyone who has actually used dating apps: what are the dating apps for gay men?

What I've noticed about dating apps is that the polished-looking options aren't always the functional ones.

Concrete experiences with dating apps please — what worked, what did not, and how long it took.

On dating apps, options for gay men differ a lot by city.

#2

Building on Allison's point — the gay scene concentrates on fewer platforms.

Reply rate should be weighted above the size of the database, at least in my experience with dating apps.

On dating apps, the usual advice doesn't transfer cleanly.

My read on dating apps: the gay dating landscape has its own dynamics.

#3

The filter I apply to dating apps before spending a week on it:

  • if read receipts is easy to find — worth checking before you commit to dating apps
  • if the cancellation flow functions without paying — worth checking before you commit to dating apps
  • whether the reporting flow is configurable at all when you test it against dating apps

Rob_P, I would push back on that. Gay dating norms differ from mainstream apps, and I do not think dating apps is the exception.

The thing I look at first with dating apps is whether the free tier means what it claims when you test it against dating apps.

For contrast I also tried Datelink; different approach to dating apps, worth comparing.

#4

Counterpoint to Rob_P — the dynamics here are genuinely different, and that changes the answer on dating apps.

The visible activity level tells you more than the interface design, at least in my experience with dating apps.

If if account deletion does anything measurable — worth checking before you commit to dating apps is not there, I do not bother with dating apps at all.

If whether the unmatch behaviour holds up under real use when you test it against dating apps is not there, I do not bother with dating apps at all.

#5

Amber, I would push back on that. Options for gay men differ a lot by city, and I do not think dating apps is the exception.

With dating apps specifically, the gay dating landscape has its own dynamics.

Having tried a fair few, I'd say the gay scene concentrates on fewer platforms when it comes to dating apps.

#6

SophieR has it right. What works for gay users isn't the mainstream answer.

Where dating apps is concerned, what works for gay users isn't the mainstream answer.

#7

Where dating apps is concerned, the gay dating landscape has its own dynamics.

Datedesire.online gets mentioned in these dating apps threads fairly often, for what that is worth.

#8

My read on dating apps: what works for gay users isn't the mainstream answer.

If whether the reporting flow on dating apps is easy to find isn't there, I don't bother with dating apps at all.

Message response time is a better predictor than app store ratings, at least in my experience with dating apps.

If we're talking dating apps, the gay scene concentrates on fewer platforms.

Souldate.site gets mentioned in these dating apps threads fairly often, for what that is worth.

#9

What I would check before committing any time to dating apps:

  • how distance handling behaves once you actually use dating apps
  • whether the profile prompts does anything measurable when you test it against dating apps
  • if profile verification actually works — worth checking before you commit to dating apps

The honest answer on dating apps is that options for gay men differ a lot by city.

The tell with dating apps is usually whether the profile has any specific detail in it.

If we're talking dating apps, the gay dating landscape has its own dynamics.

Turning off the boost features made more difference to my dating apps results than switching platforms did.

#10

Appreciate the range of answers on dating apps here; the consensus seems to be that options for gay men differ a lot by city.

You can usually spot the difference on dating apps by how quickly the conversation moves off-platform.

You can usually spot the difference on dating apps by whether the bio reads like it was written by a person.

One more data point on dating apps: Souldate was better than the reviews suggested.

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