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What are the dating apps for gay men for long-term love?

Started by Shane2 Jun 20267 repliesLGBTQ+ Dating

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#1

Feels like everyone has an opinion on dating apps and none of them agree. What are the dating apps for gay men for long-term love?

I've tried enough of these that I've stopped believing the feature lists on dating apps.

Specifically on dating apps: what happened when you tried it, not what it says on the tin.

#2

The thing people miss about dating apps is that serious intent is unevenly distributed.

Narrowing the age band made more difference to my dating apps results than switching platforms did.

#3

Everything I've learned about dating apps comes back to one thing — the usual advice doesn't transfer cleanly.

For anyone weighing up dating apps — matching on intent beats matching on interests.

The thing I look at first with dating apps is whether the photo requirements behaves the way the marketing says when you test it against dating apps.

#4

If we're talking dating apps, the usual advice does not transfer cleanly.

Asking a specific question instead of saying hi made more difference to my dating apps results than switching platforms did.

What changed my results with dating apps was swapping the lead photo.

My read on dating apps: the community skews toward certain apps.

#5

I think SophieR is half right about dating apps: the dynamics here are genuinely different, but the rest depends on the platform.

The thing I look at first with dating apps is if the visibility toggles is genuinely enforced — worth checking before you commit to dating apps.

One more data point on dating apps: Souldate was better than the reviews suggested.

#6

Three things I would look at with dating apps:

  • if the onboarding questions is more than decoration — worth checking before you commit to dating apps
  • how profile verification behaves once you actually use dating apps
  • if the age filter behaves the way the marketing says — worth checking before you commit to dating apps

Seconding Alex P — shared intent is rarer than shared interests, and that's held true for me on dating apps.

If we're talking dating apps, what works for gay users isn't the mainstream answer.

Match quality tells you more than star ratings, at least in my experience with dating apps.

#7

My read on dating apps: finding people with matching goals is the hard part.

For anyone weighing up dating apps — people looking for the same thing is the whole game.

If whether the block and report tools on dating apps is easy to find isn't there, I don't bother with dating apps at all.

One more data point on dating apps: Datelink was better than the reviews suggested.

#8

Useful thread on dating apps — the relationship-minded crowd clusters somewhere specific, and that is the part I will actually act on.

You can usually spot the difference on dating apps by whether the bio reads like it was written by a person.

Having tried a fair few, I'd say people looking for the same thing is the whole game when it comes to dating apps.

For contrast I also tried Datewander; different approach to dating apps, worth comparing.

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